Apr 04, 2022
In Self Help Forum
Unbearable Responsibility My big problem with this "you have to have a positive mindset" bullshit is that it gives people an unbearable Whatsapp Number List responsibility. There are a lot of pretty desperate people walking around. Life sometimes drives us crazy. And somehow I think especially about young women in their 30s who are exhausted from all the expectations they have of themselves and life. And those sweethearts then go on to think very positively. With their teeth clenched and they're hoarse from saying affirmations. Affirmations: Saying positive sentences. 'I'm a nice person even though no one except my mother and that one ex has given my blog a like.' Affirmations, as Oliver Whatsapp Number List Burkeman puts it in the book Antidote: Happiness For People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking : "the energetic, complacent encouragement that could lift your mood by constantly repeating how good you are." That same book cites a study by Joanne Wood that shows that those self-affirmations don't work very well at all: google Joanne Wood and 'affirmations'. I know it. Don't think negatively all day long. And we all do it too: 'No! I shouldn't think like that!' But it's exhausting to be Whatsapp Number List so busy with all those thoughts. And if there is a setback, and it will come, anyway, because that's how it goes, then these lovely people will feel completely bad: I didn't think positively enough! It's because of me! I have more affirmations to say to the mirror. While the chance that it failed for something other than the so-called 'negative thinking' is very high.